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What is a sex toy and why would anyone want one?
What is a sex toy? How can it benefit your love life and sexual relationship?
Almost anything other than you own 'equipment' that is introduced into sexual play can qualify as a sex toy. Simply put, a sex toy is any object that is brought into sexual play to enhance the sexual experience of the players. If you are have an open mind, you might be able to avoid the 'in-and-out' ritual from becoming just another mundane activity. Read more about sex toys definitions here
Why sex toy then? Let's explore several reasons. Generally :
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It 'makes life fun again' (hey! isn't that our motto?) No doubt it will spice up your sex life as they can be used during intercourse, or foreplay, or both, or self pleasure. Yes, they are fun, as toys should be!
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Make a great partner substitute for periods when in-between (or instead of) sexual relationships. Yes, they are the ultimate for safer sex.
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Are a great way to receive stimulation that may otherwise be difficult to sustain (lesser aching jaws and tired hands!
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Reach areas that your partner may not be able (or want) to reach; and example is anal toys.
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Can assist in situations where one partner requires more attention than the other is able to give (multiple orgasms can be VERY tiring! ).
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Are great for those times when one partner “wants to” and the other partner doesn’t or can’t.
- To discover or increase your ability to orgasm
- Experimenting with a different shapes, sizes and colors, and to try different levels or kinds of stimulation as sex toys do things people can't: revolve, vibrate, bend or twirl
- To complement or enhance your fantasies
- To spark communication with your partner
- And finally, you have the rights to sexual pleasure -- in every form.
Pleasure
Asian countries including Singapore are relatively conservative society where sexual pleasure and guilt are associated, it's not surprising that sex toys have given themselves a bad name just for being themselves.
However, it goes without saying that sex toys are best enjoyed with no guilt attached. They require no justification; sex toys are pleasure for pleasure's sake. They offer us a unique opportunity to explore our bodies in new and exciting ways. You'll definitely discover more in depth about sexual desire and probably discover a few new erogenous zones as well. Sex toys are simply a gateway to pleasure. The only limit is your imagination.
Pleasure is also not the only reason to purchase an adult toy. In fact, vibrators and dildos can be quite therapeutic for example.
There are many women with orgasmic difficulty who may need the constant clitoral stimulation that only a vibrator can provide. In most texts on female orgasmic dysfunction, you'll find the authors recommend toys for self-exploration.
Toys are also useful for those who may have decreased mobility due to health concerns. Toys offer sexual satisfaction without the strain that conventional sexual stimulation can bring. BUT DON'T YOU GET LAZY!!
Fantasy
For those of us in monogamous relationships, it's often difficult to explore our sexual fantasies. Being faithful is more important than living out your deepest desires. Toys give us the opportunity to indulge our fantasies in a completely safe environment. In this sense, sex toys can be an extremely helpful addition to any loving relationship. It's nearly impossible for one person to satisfy every facet of another's desire. Sex toys can help by providing a new element to your sexual ritual without the complications of the actual realization of your fantasies.
Inspiration
An uninspired performance in the bedroom can be a real strain on your relationship. With the daily stresses of life, sex can often take a back seat to more pressing matters. Whether it's families or careers, our lives are busier than ever and intimacy often feels the squeeze. So why not introduce something a little risqué to the proceedings? Sex toys give couples a chance to explore each other and have a light-hearted laugh along the way. Adult toys are a wonderful way to spice up your sex life.
Sexual Health and Benefits
Sex toys promote good health! There are some interesting and well-documented health benefits associated with the use of sex toys.
Having an orgasm releases stress and tension, and is a great way to start the day or to help you have an enjoyable sleep. Dealing with sexual frustration will allow a person to deal with all the other issues that they have to contend with. At the same time, while they are separated from a partner, or have no current partner, they can be satisfied without having to risk cheating or getting a STD from some person they met at the pub (supposedly).
During menopause, most women experience some thinning of the vaginal wall. Studies indicate that the regular use of a dildo can help maintain vaginal tone.
Women who have trouble reaching orgasm can also benefit from the use of sex toys. Many leading experts on the subject recommend the use of a vibrator to help overcome orgasmic difficulty.
Stay tuned for PART II
-------------------- Editor @ Sensual-Lifestyle.com 2004
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